Writers-in-Progress

Lean Back

What I want to tell all you writers and poets out there is - lean back.

If something you're working on isn't working, be it poem or essay or song or story. Stop. Lean back. Let it go. Take a few days off from it. A week if you can.

If you're sending out your writing with an anxious heart, desperate to be published, making a big production out of it (scouring The Writer's Market until you can't see straight, spending tons of money on contest fees) and no one is accepting your work and you're not even getting honorable mention - stop. Lean back.

You're getting too intense. You're crushing the possibility of your success with the weight of your need.

There's a moment when you cross the line from just believing in your writing and working to get it out there as part of the process - submitting to lit mags and contests, querying agents - to trying to force something to happen - the exact thing you want to happen, in exactly the way you want it.

You have to lean back to receive.

Critique Groups: Good and Bad Things

My latest post on critique groups is up on WebdelSol's The Writer's Edge. See left hand side bar for the link.

Gangs & Graffiti

I'm buying a house (still in looking stage - perfect time to buy and there are so many out there in my range), so I wanted to get more involved in the community as a homeowner and find out about crime in my area - Southeast Baltimore. Last night I went with a friend to the monthly local police meeting and had the best time! Not to make light of the seriousness of what was presented and discussed, but it was quite a show - between the officers and the community members. You could just spot the people who LIVE for these meetings. They practically set up shop at their table - with leather portfolios filled with legal pads, pens, highlighters. They bring water bottles and fliers and highlight the agenda. They ask many many questions. They are known by name by the officers. Still, I could appreciate their fervor. It's people like that that keep the police informed and keep an eye out for bad behavior.

The police were great, actually - funny, friendly, passionate about what they do, committed to being good communicators and responders to community needs. About 7 of them were in on the presentation (which included PowerPoint! There were many misspellings so my friend and I are going to volunteer to proofread for them next time). They passed out so much helpful material on gangs - how to spot them, how to talk to parents who might have a child in a gang, what they're doing about it, graffiti, etc. My friend showed me a picture of a bit of graffiti that had been on the wall of the bank across from Creative Alliance (I hadn't even seen it!) - a Bloods symbol. It was all fascinating and I feel more informed already. I'm working with a group that mentors young girls (the police said the girl gangs are more hard core than the boys) and I plan on contacting the youth division to ask them to come and present to the girls - before it's too late!

What I wanted to pass on to you, Dear Writer, is yet another reminder to step out of your comfort zone. Until my friend mentioned this meeting, I didn't know they existed. Saw some of my neighbors there. I took so many notes on people, things said, and other info, that I might use later in my writing. Look for something like this where you live. It doesn't have to be a police meeting - it can be some event or museum or organization or store you've been meaning to check out and haven't gotten around to. My advice to you? GO. You never know what you might see/hear that will inspire you to write. Get out there and keep your eyes open!

(And consider finding these meetings in your area and attend them and/or volunteer to mentor a young boy or girl (your police department will have lists of these organizations in your area). Your involvement could make all the difference and ensure they don't get sucked into a gang. I know plenty of people who just complain and complain about the police and never go to a meeting like this and share their concerns. They forget it's a partnership. The police need our help as much as we need theirs.)

Writers: Ready, Set, Slow Down

It's the end of the year and all around me writer friends and students are vowing to write more - more words, more pages, more often. There's a desperate tinge to their voices that worries me. 'Cause that's not what it's about. These resolutions will fall by the wayside, just like the ones about exercising, quitting smoking, and they will feel like crap about it and sink deeper into not doing what they most want to do. You know the name for it - self-sabotage.

Not to depress you - some people will make their resolutions stick, and that person may be you. It's just a lot of pressure to put on yourself. I'm an expert at doing this, so I know of what I speak.

What I want to say to you is this: TAKE YOUR TIME. Decide that's what you're going to do. Writing is not a race to finishing the most pieces or publication. There is a spot for you in the publishing world somewhere - it will be your turn at some point, so you don't need to compete or speed up or write about things you think people want to read, publish, etc., but that don't really interest you. All of these things will derail you, guaranteed. You will get there. You will find the right place and right time. Slow down.

Best thing to do is to sit down and make a list of your writing-related accomplishments this year. No matter how small. Even if you have two, or one, that's one more than you had last year, right? Good for you. That's movement. Then, make a list of 3 things (ONLY 3) you want to do this year with your writing. Notice I said want to do - not have to do or think you should do. WANT.

Maybe take a class, read certain books, try a form you haven't tried before, finish a writing project. Pick the thing that makes your heart leap (even if it leaps in fear, that's a good thing) when you think about attempting it.

That's what you're going to start with. You don't have to wait for January first, start it today and work on it UNTIL IT'S FINISHED. Work on it when you want to, but make sure you spend time on your goal every month. Even if it's just one day a month, that's something. For example, I've been so busy that I'm only able to write 2-3 days a month, just prior to the meeting of my peer workshop - so I have pages to turn in. But I sit down the weekend before and I write the entire time as I promised myself I would. The pages get written, I enjoy it (most of the time), and I feel great for sticking to my goal. My workshop meets every 3 weeks, and I'm already at page 200 in just 4 1/2 months. That's a novel in about 6-7 months. Pretty good.

Here's the biggest reason people quit - they expect their writing project to be perfect, or they themselves to be perfect (keeping to a schedule, for example) and if they don't write or read for a week or skip a class they tell themselves they've already failed so why bother continuing? That's just too easy and also lame. So stop it right now. :) You may write two books before you get a book right. You might write 100 poems or stories until that perfect one. You might go through some classes or books to read until you find one that connects with you.

It's all part of the process - learning, growing, exploring, experimenting, practicing. You don't go from zero to perfect without some sweat in between. That's the deal. So suck it up.

Work on one thing and take your time. When you finish it, move to the next thing on your list. Again - it's not a competition. It's not a race. You will get there if you take each day of the process as it comes, do what works for you, and congratulate yourself for keepin' on.

How much would you like to bet you get through that list this year?

Pretend You're Published

Yes, I know, we all write because we love writing, and if we never published, we'd still do it. Right? Actually, that's true. But most of us still have that distant ache of Why am I not published yet? However good we are at not tuning into the feeling, it's still there, running underneath all we say and do, and it's draining, isn't it? As long as you allow it to, it pulls away a percentage of your consciousness and energy that are always at work (uselessly, most of the time, I might add) on this problem, and could be better used elsewhere. Maybe...um...in your writing? Or how about your life?

We've all heard about how we need to live in the present, how the present is where we create the future - by the seeds we sow today - the thoughts and emotions we have this minute. So how do we let go of this publication thing and enjoy life, enjoy our writing, and also believe that, one day, we too will find our book on the B&N remainder table? :)

It's pretty simple really. Pretend you're published. Pretend that you've got a book deal and your book is coming out one year from now. So, with that taken care of, what would you do with that year? How would you enjoy your life? What would you focus on? What would you write?

Sit down right now and answer these questions. Make a 'life' list and a 'writing' list. Then start at the top of each and do and write those things.

And start planning a publication party, because I bet once you've relinquished your death grip on that desire, it will happen faster than you think.

Soundtrack to Your Story

Working hard on the novel today and having a terrific time, not just because I'm at a good place in the book and things are fun and flowing, but because I'm playing the soundtrack to the story.

You probably already know what this is; maybe you do this unconsciously when you write - play music that energizes and inspires you. What kind of music depends on what you're writing. If you're in a serious spot in the book you're probably not going to play Madonna's disco album or 80s hair band music (though I think Split Enz's 'Six Months in Leaky Boat' could work). But have you actually created a CD of music that would be the soundtrack to your book if it were made into a movie? This can be incredibly helpful - creating an atmosphere, a mood, that can give you just the right emotional boost for whatever scene you're writing.

The songs will create the thoughts and feelings of your characters for you in a visceral, intangible way, like nothing else can. In this way, writers are like actors. Why not try on your characters a bit so you can channel them better? Wear something they would. Eat their food. Rent a movie they would love. Do something they would but you wouldn't (ie travel by yourself, take an art class, attend a support group). Get creative. It really pays off. (Just be careful - don't get yourself into trouble!)

Here's the soundtrack I'm listening to as I write today:

Zero 7 - Destiny
Bobby Darin - Beginning to See the Light
Englebert Humperdink - After the Lovin'
Rosemary Cloony - Mambo Italiano
Ambrosia - Biggest Part of Me, You're the Only One
Player - Baby Come Back
Me First and the Gimme Gimmes - Mandy
Neil Diamond - Sweet Caroline
Bee Gees - More than a Woman
Johnnie Rivers - Secret Agent Man
Don McLean - Miss American Pie

Wouldn't you want to read this book?

Picture This: Published Writer

I once tried to learn to play golf. Got a club, had a lesson, was interested in it, wanted to give it a go - but it didn't work. It didn't work because I couldn't see myself as a golfer. It was just too far away from the image I had of myself.

Wanting a certain kind of life, certain kinds of friends or relationships, to be a certain kind of person, or writer, can only get you so far if you can't see it. If you can't imagine it. For some of us, as we have experiences, as we grow as writers, as we have our successes, our perception of ourselves changes and the scope of what we can picture about our writing and our writing life widens. Others easily picture themselves winning the National Book Award. Bastards. :)

Look at yourself now compared with where you were when you first started writing. Make a list of the things you've done and learned and succeeded at since. It can be as simple as, "wrote a poem." Even if you have just that one thing on your list, don't discount it. Suddenly, now, there's a poem, where there wasn't one. That's a big deal. And because of it you're not the same person/writer.

If you see yourself as always struggling, as being a writer who is rejected or not good enough for the best literary magazines, or someone who will be a great unpublished writer (whose work the world will discover in 100 years and won't they be sorry then that nobody cared while you were alive, right?), then that's what you'll be.

Start to picture the kind of success you want to have as a writer NOW. If you want to be published, daydream about getting the acceptance call from your agent, about signing the contract in some publisher's office, depositing a huge check (!), book signings, readings, walking into a bookstore and seeing your book, being stopped on the street and told how much someone loved your last poetry collection or novel.

At first this may feel dumb and awkward, and you might only be able to do it for a few minutes. But commit to doing it every day - when you wake up and before you go to bed. Let yourself feel excited and grateful.

Why should you be singled out as a failure? If that's possible, couldn't you just as easily be a success?

"Nothing we ever imagined is beyond our powers, only beyond our present self-knowledge."
-- Theodore Roszak

Kairos vs Chronos

The Greeks recognized that there are two entirely different aspects of time: chronos and kairos. Sarah Ban Breathnach, in her book Simple Abundance, gives us insight into the differences:

"Chronos is clocks, deadlines, watches, calendars, agendas, planners, schedules, beepers. Chronos is time at her worst. Chronos keeps track. Chronos is the world's time. Kairos is transcendence, infinity, reverence, joy, passion, love, the Sacred. Kairos is intimacy with the Real. Kairos is time at her best. Kairos is Spirit's time. We exist in chronos. We long for kairos. That's our duality. Chronos requires speed so that it won't be wasted. Kairos requires space so that it might be savored. We do in chronos. In kairos we're allowed to be. It
takes only a moment to cross over from chronos into kairos, but it does take a moment. All that kairos asks is our willingness to stop running long enough to hear the music of the spheres."

The best life is one in which there is a balance between Chronos and Kairos. Writing takes place in Kairos. If too much of your time is Chronos (which includes always doing for others and being the 'go to' person for everything - both at work and at home), your creative energy begins to dissipate - dry up - and it takes a lot more effort to find it, coax it into being, and get it going again. Schedule more Kairos time into your day and your week. Pick a few hours on the weekend (at least) when family and friends fend for themselves. You're first responsibility is to yourself. Only when you meet your own needs - both basic and creative - will you be able to fully give to others.

YOU DESERVE TIME TO WRITE. It is your right to have time for the things that make you happy. If writing is one of them, then tell whoever needs to be told when you are off limits so you can enjoy some Kairos. Note I said 'tell,' not 'ask.' Be gentle, but be firm. This goes for telling yourself too. At first it will be hard to ignore the kids fighting and the laundry, or the report that's due, or the phone, but be strong! Even if nothing comes and you don't write a word, sit still with a notebook and don't move until the time is up. You will at least be thinking, and your writing mind will be taking note of your efforts. Eventually it will come around and offer you something. You can't bully it! It has to believe you will make time for it on a regular basis.

Your writing, your voice, your ideas, your imagination - all precious and deserving of your attention. It's worth it. You're worth it. Make time. Kairos.

Imperfection, Spontaneity, and Risk - Top 3 Tips

TOP THREE THINGS: (these won’t be a surprise!)

1) The first and best thing you can do to bring more spontaneity, imperfection, and risk into your work is to MAKE TIME TO WRITE – REGULARLY. If you don’t do this, every time you do manage to squeeze out time, you will be overwhelmed with all your ideas, guilt because you haven’t written, and the feeling like you really have to make it count, so what you write needs to be great, and you will end up squeezing the life out of your writing. When you only have little bits and pieces of time, it’s hard to keep in the mental and emotional swing of the piece you’re working on. You spend a lot of time just settling down and organizing your thoughts.

If you have a really busy schedule, see where you can cut back. A creative mind needs time and space to open, to daydream, to gather, to play around. It doesn’t do well with fifteen minutes here and there (though take those if they're all you have). So you need to make time to write – at least 3 times a week – regular days and times, like an appt with yourself. Give yourself a minimum of two hours if you can. No less than one. (As you get regular times under your belt, you can be more flexible and reschedule as needed. Create the habit first.)

2) You also should have a writer’s journal that you carry with you at all times. One with you and one in the car. Jot down impressions, ideas for stories, bits of dialogue you heard, something you saw, something you felt, a question you want to answer.

3) Writing exercises. Get some books of these and work your way through them – pick random exercises or start at the beginning (or start at the end). Whatever feels right to you. These will allow you to experiment with a range of ideas, images, feelings, experiences. It’s like an exercise or health plan for the writer. Sometimes you will produce something amazing and sometimes you won’t. That’s not how doing exercises should be judged – on what you produce. It’s the act itself – of writing, of exploring and experimenting – that's where the real gold is.

Stay tuned for more detailed tips...

Get a New Toy

How can you breathe new life into your writing? How can you get more spontaneity, imperfection, and risk into your work? I'm going to be doing a series of posts about this, but I'd like to start with a story first.

My westie, Keegan, is fourteen. He's a fabulous dog (anyone who knows me knows I'm crazy about him and with good reason, in my opinion!). I like to keep him as active as possible - long walks, playing, etc. Well, for the last two weeks, I have not been able to get him interested in any of his toys. I went through all sorts of ridiculous gyrations trying to get his attention - I threw them around, kicked them around, snuck up on him with them, walked them slowly under his nose and - nothing. I dumped out the big basket of toys I have and spread them out on the floor, which usually gets his interest, to the point where he'll come by and take several of them one by one, as if he's making a pile of his favorites, and then he'll play with these for a few weeks. This time he completely ignored me.

Being the fanatical dog mother I am, I told a friend about this, and that I was worried he was starting to really slow down, that this was the beginning of the end, and I didn't know what to do - worked myself up about it - and my friend simply said, "Chris, get him a new toy. He just needs a new toy."

Duh.

Worked like a charm.

So my first word of advice to you is - do something new. Either in your writing (try a new technique - for a quick one, write in the voice of someone else (a persona piece) or in your life or both. Go to a new restaurant, or a movie you wouldn't normally see. Rent some foreign films. Visit a new neighborhood in your city. If you're religious - go to a different church. Go to a festival. Buy an article of clothing you wouldn't normally wear, wear it somewhere, and see how you feel. Try a new food. Listen to new music.

You can't keep moving in the same circle every day and expect your writing to zing. Get some new input - especially sensory. Gather new experiences, images, sounds, tastes, smells. All of this will come in handy at some point. Take your notebook and describe everything. Use fragments if that will help. You're not trying to write beautiful prose in that moment - you're just trying to absorb your environment as vividly and specifically as you can. Include how you feel.

Get a new toy.